Man Doesn’t Understand Why GF Didn’t Appreciate His Gift, Gets A Reality Check

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We were also curious what Tina thought about the man’s idea that buying his partner lingerie would make her feel more confident. “Lingerie is a personal choice, and someone buying their partner underwear to make them feel a certain way, is not ever going to work,” she told Bored Panda. “If anything, someone who is not confident is going to feel even more self conscious in something she’s been given to model.”

“This guy completely missed her very clear point that she preferred ‘plain’ underwear,” Tina added. “If she was happy with plain underwear it’s certainly not his role to be telling her what to wear to make her more confident or please him in some way. This guy might very well have meant well, but I suspect it had more to do with how he wants her to feel and look in lingerie, rather than how she actually feels.”

The relationship expert says that the way to make her feel more confident and comfortable is to take it at her pace and adore her in every plain bit of underwear she chooses to wear. “He should have stopped to consider how she would feel receiving it (as he clearly hoped she’d throw it on and jump on him),” Tina noted.

“He should have stopped to consider things that she finds special, treats that she gives herself and doubled up on that. If she’s feeling unconfident, getting her something that is just for her – should have been obvious,” she continued. “A lovely massage at her favorite spa, a special lunch at her favorite restaurant, or a nice planned getaway to a fun venue like an amusement park – would have had a much warmer reception, and likely to make her feel more confident, even in her plain underwear.”